In today's frantic world of texting, Wi-Fi, and dubstep, it can be nice to reconnect with our humanity by watching an old movie. I'm watching Scent of a Woman, and in a way it startles me that this is now an old movie. The tango scene still has the ability to move me to tears. And as much as I love some of his music, the same just can't be said for Skrillex. Sometimes I miss the simple romance of a slower-paced, less technological world.

Whoo-ah.

There's a technique for overcoming addiction called "What's Always True." The basic idea is that we fall back into addictive behavior when we feel lost, but there are certain things that are always true, things we can use to help anchor ourselves in a healthy place during our darkest, most directionless moments. One of the things that helps me is to imagine a future in which I've fallen in love and am about to get married. This helps me to identify which parts of my present self are the good parts, the parts that I want to hold onto and cherish, the parts that are really me. It also helps me to identify the parts of my present self that I don't want to carry with me into the future, the bad parts, the purposeless parts, the parts that I've picked up during the times when I've been lost and have strayed from my real self. If I focus on the version of myself that's good and that's real, it's relatively easy to let go of all the negative and useless things I don't really need. This also helps bring me closer to becoming the person I want to be, the person that I really am but that often gets buried beneath all the clutter which has gathered around me during the times when I've lost track of who I am. The bad parts of me, the parts that are confused, the parts that hurt -- these are the clutter. The good parts of me, the parts that are at peace, the parts that feel joy, the parts that want to help others, the parts that are fit to fill the roles of child, brother, husband, father, and friend -- these are who I am underneath and who I want to be through and through. This is the version of myself I can see in the future, being happy, useful, loving, and complete. This is What's Always True.